More
about me??? Okay,
I'll try,
but don't expect much.
I've lived in San
Diego, CA since the summer of 1986...Whew!
There, how was that? It's difficult for me to talk about myself, but
I said I would do it and I did. Trust me, it wasn't easy.
Wow. I've never
opened up like this before. I feel so vulnerable, and yet so exhilarated
at the same time. I'm really living life on the edge here. You're not
going to use this against me right?
Perhaps I've beat
around the bush a little too much here. I'll offer one deep thought
that reflects something about myself.
One of my friends
once pointed out that I refused to let the pitfalls of life bring me
down. Whenever life took a wrong turn, I would somehow take pleasure
or at least find relief in the fact that something could be learned
from whatever it was that had taken place. This much is true. Learning
and discovering are among my great passions. I felt a sense of pride
when my friend called me a "glass is half-full" type of person.
I had been respectfully cast into the ranks of the optimists.
Sometime after
this meeting, I reflected on the compliment of being a "glass is
half-full" type of person. Still feeling warm and reassured (and
perhaps a bit thirsty) I began to wonder what it was that half-filled
the glass. I imagined a person drinking a sweet delicious glass of juice.
As the liquid was slowly consumed the individual stopped and peered
into the glass to see how much juice remained. At that point, she could
have thought "Oh wonderful, I've already had this much delicious
juice and see how much more there is left. I truly am a lucky person."
On the other hand, she might also have said "Drat! I can't believe
that this is all the delicious juice I have left. I am so miserably
cursed."
So then, I must
consider myself lucky if I am a "glass is half-full" type
of person. I am tickled by the fact that there is another half-glass
of sweet delicious juice all for me. But then I couldn't help thinking
"what's in the other half of that glass." The other half of
the glass has stuff in it too, even if it isn't delicious juice. Just
because it isn't filled with the sweet nectar that everyone seems to
crave, doesn't mean it isn't filled too. Does anybody even realize that
there is half of a glass here getting no attention at all? For Peter's
sake, the glass is entirely full and nobody seems to care!
In a sense, I felt
an attachment to the forgotten half of the glass. Not that I could associate
myself to the airy half of a glass, but instead that I wanted to somehow
defend it. I could think of a thousand analogies of how this example
related to life and to society, and I'm sure that you would too if you
tried. One that stands out to me is that we often tend to notice the
sweet delicious half of life. Or, say the glass was half-filled with
cod liver oil, we would notice the bitter distasteful half of life.
Whatever the case, there is a third "half" to life that hardly
ever gets noticed and I think it's a shame.
Beauty is found
in discovery, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant. It doesn't
have to be a new discovery, but maybe a deeper one. I often look at
my wife and see things about her that I've never seen before. There's
beauty in her that everyone sees all the time, but there are also an
infinite number of facets that have yet to be discovered. It's easy
to love the good things about someone and, surprisingly, even the bad
ones can help strengthen a relationship too. But there is beauty in
discovering that other half. I take pride in my friend's compliment
of being a "glass is half-full" type of person, but I aspire
to be one who sees that the glass is entirely full.